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It's Better to Burn Out, Than Fade Away

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"You do not need a therapist if you own a motorcycle, any kind of motorcycle!" ~ Dan Aykroyd ~


It's Better to Burn Out, Than Fade Away I dreamed of this for so many years and unfortunately did not trust my gut or myself for that matter, to do what was in my heart. I have never been good at doing what I wanted and too good at doing the “responsible thing”. Until one day I looked up motorcycle safety classes at two area colleges. Once I found a class and time that would work with my schedule and I gave myself five seconds to decide. I counted off in my head and clicked the enroll button. I knew in the first hour on the riding course that I was meant to ride.


It is hard to explain the feeling I get when riding my motorcycle. There is the obvious sensation of freedom, but it goes way beyond a simple feeling. Once I climb in the saddle and start the engine, we become one. No one else is inside that helmet with me.


The similarities of riding and trail running are amazing to me…

Be the Kind of Friend You Need on Your Worst Days

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“Remember that the most valuable antiques are dear old friends.” ~ H. Jackson Brown, Jr. ~

Be the Kind of Friend You Need on Your Worst Days


Have you ever finished a conversation with a good friend and felt like you just left the therapist office? They listen to you without judgment and offer some thoughts, a little advice and ask the tough questions. The type of questions that you might tell someone else to “F” off. They make you think for yourself while letting you know that you are not alone.
You find yourself telling them things that you don’t tell others. If you are good enough friends, you let them peek through the cracks and dark places that come from being broken. They know to say just enough and know when to back off. They will tell you that you are full of shit if you are, but they will listen anyway.
You may not even get to see them often or there might be gaps of time you are apart, but when you see each other it feels like no time has passed. These are the people that you…

Out With the Old and…Here We Go Again

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“Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end.” ~ Seneca ~
Out With the Old and…Here We Go Again


Well, as another year comes to a close and we hear the usual hopefulness for the next to be better than the last. This has been the pattern since the beginning of time, I believe. Most people still wait for that glorious, fabled year only to be disappointed yet again by how humans treat each other.
What if, instead of always hoping for something new and improved, we take care of each other? I know way too many people who struggle tremendously to get through every day. We must look after the individuals we cross paths with, to make the world a better place and survive as a society. If we ignore problems around us, we are part of the problem versus being part of the solution.

I will not waste my time wishing things get better in the coming year. If we do not treat each other better, a number on a calendar will not change things. Similarly when people say that “someday I’ll do…

Launch the Journey to the Res

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“Where there is charity and wisdom, there is neither fear nor ignorance.” ~ Francis of Assisi ~
Launch the Journey to the Res



Recently, a good friend sent me an email with a link to a group called Simply Smiles. As soon as I opened it I knew it was for me. There are two places that this group spreads hope; one is in Oaxaca, Mexico and the second is in South Dakota at the Cheyenne River Sioux Tribe Reservation. I have chosen to go to the CRST Reservation in May for eight days. I will be living and work side by side with the people of the reservation, helping with projects and activities with the children. This is an opportunity that I am very excited about; to be able to be immersed in the Native American culture and to help preserve that culture.
I am still waiting to receive the specifics and more details about what I need to do to make this trip but, I pretty long walk, that’s why I started a GoFundMe page. I sincerely hope that this will not be a onetime trip to the reservation, an…

Altering the Future with her Grace

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 “Faith is the strength by which a shattered world shall emerge into the light.” ~ Helen Keller ~

Altering the Future with her Grace
Last week when I dropped something off, I met Sonia, the woman in her 90’s who runs a tailor shop. That is pretty impressive in itself, and then you talk to her. She tells me that she is a Holocaust survivor and there is a movie that they made about her coming to a local theatre in December. She is very friendly, sweet and pleasant to talk to, not to mention interesting.
This week I went back to pick up my vest and I brought her a couple of candles from work. She was very excited and said that when people do things like that it gives her hope that there are still good people in the world. We talked a little about people, education, greed, her life, and movie. As she leaned on the counter I looked down and saw the number tattooed on her arm. Honestly, you could have knocked me over with a feather. It made everything so real. It is one thing to hear someone …

Pondering the Simple Things That Bring us Joy

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“If the sight of the blue skies fills you with joy, if a blade of grass springing up in the fields has power to move you, if the simple things of nature have a message that you understand, rejoice, for your soul is alive.” ~ Eleonora Duse ~



Pondering the Simple Things That Bring us Joy
I have been pondering a great deal about this questions lately, and it got me thinking about what we ignore in the daily grind. We rush to God knows where to do God knows what, that in the big picture means very little. We bearly, if at all, acknowledge each other while lost in whatever self-important mission that we are on at the time. Say hello or at least smile and nod at people when you pass by them.
Some of the things that bring me moments of joy are; watching an eagle or hawk fly seemingly effortless, standing still in a dark spot looking at the stars, listening to two owls communicating with each other. You might see a trend here that most of my simple things have to do with nature. I also have a …

Carrying the Weight of the World

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“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” ~ Buddha ~

Carrying the Weight of the World



Some days, even when things are things are going okay, you are surrounded by a cloud. You feel empty, darkness and the weight of the world on your shoulders. You are still able to keep up a good front and laugh at things occasionally, but as time goes by your defenses weaken and your inclination to deceive yourself and others diminish. 
As you begin to let some trusted people into your world, you will find many reactions. Some will understand but others will try to find reasons or explanations for your moods. Most others will see you as a grumpy or gloomy person. Some will view you as weak for being depressed and anxious, they could not be further from the truth.
I have described being functionally depressed being similar to a duck on the water. The parts that are visible look calm and peaceful, but under the surface is where all the activity is. Now…