Frequenting the Road Less Traveled

"Sometimes the road less traveled is less traveled for a reason."

~ Jerry Seinfeld ~

Frequenting the Road Less Traveled

Sometimes we spend more time wondering how we got on this road than we do about how we get where we want or need to go. I am most definitely guilty of this, in that, I make decisions and then fester about the outcome. Most times I feel that I am doing the right thing or what is in everyone’s best interest, but I still think I could have done something different. It is worse when it comes to dealing with this myself. It is enormously frustrating to say to myself over and over again that I knew better and did it anyway, that I had a feeling it was not a good idea but, ignored that feeling. Someone once said ‘Someone once asked me,” Why do you always insist on taking the hard road?” I replied, “Why do you assume I see two roads?”

We should not beat ourselves up or let decisions cloud our vision but it is hard. Of course, there are times when you don’t know you missed a turn until you look in your rearview mirror. Just don’t be that person on the highway who once realizing the exit was missed, stops and puts the car in reverse with little or no thought to the consequences, those people are dangerous. Sometimes it does not take drastic over compensation to fix and get back on the right road. Occasionally you will find another route with better scenery anyway, sometimes, you just friggin get lost.

Here is a thought; stop telling everyone exactly what you are planning and if you get diverted, who will know but you? Social media is a tempting format to blueprint every move you make which only magnifies this predicament. Another trip hazard is expectations. We set ourselves up for failure on a daily basis due to unrealistic expectations. Constantly being disappointed when events don’t match the story we have in our head. When it comes down to it, all it is is a story anyway. We must learn to take things as they come and know that the story is not reality.

Will I practice what I preach going forward? I’m not going to tell you that, you should have seen that coming. But stay tuned and I might let you know later. Don’t question every decision you make and for now, keep moving forward and find time to do something for yourself. I know, people in glass houses… I’ll try. 

Thanks for reading this and I hope you have a great week! I will try to gain back some positive ground this week as well. I am supposed to get my bike back in a couple of days so that will help. 

Care For The Tired Souls

“Do not be too hard, lest you be broken; do not be too soft, lest you be squeezed”

~ Ali ibn Abi Talib ~

Care For The Tired Souls

It can be challenging to find a sense of balance in life. Hell, it feels almost unmanageable at times. We must remain strong enough to continue forward momentum, while staying aware of the needs of others around us. If we are too protective of ourselves we will shut people out, but if we are not careful, our souls and spirits can become drained.

The more compassionate and caring you are, the more people take advantage of you and you feel more pain. I have yet to figure out how to manage this balancing act. I guess I can best be described as a sponge, absorbing energy from my surroundings. Negative or bad energy is like a punch in the gut to me. I honestly cannot watch or listen to network type news without feeling ill.

People in general can be so exhausting to be around most days. There are a few people that I can spend time with and feel better afterwards and I believe it is because their hearts and souls are untainted. That does not mean that they have not been broken, it simply means that they are genuinely good and real. Sometimes when you connect with one of these people, the conversation or lack of need for conversation is so comforting that you feel better after being around them.

If you are one of those people that brighten up someone’s day, thank you!  If not, try to be. 

As always, I thank you for reading this and I wish you PEACE!

How can you miss something so much that you only had for a short time?

“Turn your attention for a while away from the worries and anxieties. Remind yourself of all your many blessings.”

~ Ralph Marston ~

How can you miss something so much that you only had for a short time?

Well, you want it for many years, then when you finally get it or it is within reach, then you screw it up one way or another. I know this sounds particularly cynical but, this pattern has repeated itself over the course of time, even though I try to be realistic and not have a lot of expectations.

I also know that I might be setting this up to be a self-fulfilling prophecy. One thing is for sure, this is one of the few things that I have always been able to count on. I want this trend to end forever and stop haunting me. I am ready to be excited when something good happens and not look over my shoulder for the other shoe to drop.

When I get my bike back I am going to really try to focus on appreciating what I have and not what could happen. I think a big part of it this time is that I have been freaked out about money and the feeling of guilt since I signed papers on it. I need to let that go and enjoy it for what it is; a piece of me that has been missing for years.

I am joining a local H.O.G. chapter and going on rides with them and a friend of mine. I plan to do a lot of riding this Fall and meet new riding friends. For now, I must be patient and wait until they finish with it and I get it back. It is not easy, let me tell you. Really, what choice do I have anyway? If nothing else, at least we are getting a bunch of rain now, hopefully, nature will get it out of its system. I’m looking forward to some beautiful, peaceful weather this Fall.